Summary of Stephen Covey Best Seller “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” – Behance

The 7 habits of highly effective people;

1. Be proactive. Take responsibility of your life.

2. Begin with the End in Mind. Define your goals and missions in life.

3. Put first things first. Prioritize. Do the most important things first.

4. Think win-win. Have an everyone-can-win attitude.

5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Listen to people sincerely.

6. Synergize. Work together to achieve more.

7. Sharpen the saw. Renew yourself regularly.

On the contrary, in order to understand the 7 habits of effective people, You have to know the opposites. And they are;

1. Reactive. Blaming and becoming a victim. Take no responsibility.

2. Begin with No End in Mind. Dont have plan. Never think of tomorrow, live for the moment, sleep around, get wasted.

3. Put first things last. Postponing. Make sure the things that dont matter (like watching reruns, gossiping, sleeping, etc) always come before those that do.

4. Think win-lose. See life as a vicious competition.

5. Seek to talk first, then pretend to listen.

6. Dont cooperate.

7. Wear yourself out. Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or improve yourself.

Depending upon what they are, our habits will either make us or break us.

Sow a thought and you reap an act

Sow an act and you reap a habit

Sow a habit and you reap a character

Sow a character and you reap a destiny

Building your Personal Bank Account (PBA)

PBA Deposit:

* Keep promises to yourself

* Do small acts of kindness

* Be Gentle with yourself

* Be honest

* Renew yourself

* Tap into your talents

PBA Withdrawals:

* Break personal promises

* Keep to yourself

* Beat yourself up

* Be dishonest

* Wear yourself out

* Neglect your talents

Be the Force!

Reactive people make choices based in impulse. They’re like a can of soda. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they explode.

While proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act. They recognize that they cant control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it.

Unlike reactive people who are full of carbonation, proactive people are like water. Shake them all up, take off the lid, and nothing. No fizzing, no bubbling, no pressure. They are cool, calm and in control.

Being proactive usually means 2 things:

1. You take responsibility for your life

2. You have a “can-do” attitude

“Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force. I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice: my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.” ~Elaine Maxwell~

“It has long since come to my attention that people of accomplishments rarely sit back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” ~Elinor Smith~

Organize for Success

Plan weekly

Take 15 minutes each week to plan your week and just watch what a difference it can make.

Step 1:

Identify your big rocks. Ask yourself what are the most important things I need to do this week? They are sort of like mini-goals and should be tied to your mission statement and longer terms goals. Another way to identify your big rocks is to think through the key role of your life; as wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, society members and etc.

Step 2:

Block out time for your big rocks. Spare time and book the plans in your calendar or planner, so you can keep track of your goals.

Step 3:

Schedule everything else. Once your big rocks booked, schedule in all of your other little to-dos, daily tasks n appoinments.

The Key to Communication

If you can learn to see things from another’s point of view before sharing your own, a whole new world of understanding will be opened up to you.

5 poor listening styles:

1. Spacing out. It’s when someone is talking to us but we ignore them because our mind is wandering off in another galaxy.

2. Pretend listening. We still aren’t paying attention to the other person, but at least we pretend we are by making insightful comments such as yaeh, uh huh etc.

3. Selective listening. We only pay attention to the part of the conversation that interests us.

4. Word listening. It occurs when we actually pay attention to what someone is saying, but we listen only to the words, not to the body language, the feelings, or the true meaning behind the words.

5. Self-centered listening. Happens when we see everything from our own point of view. Instead of standing in another’s shoes, we want them to stand in ours.

6. Judging. Sometimes, as we listen to others, we make judgements about them and what they’re saying ( in the back of our minds).

Genuine Listening:

1. Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. Listening with just your ears isn’t good enough, because only 7% of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language and how we say words.

2. Second, stand in their shoes. You need to take your shoes off and stand in another’s shoes.

3. Practise mirroring. Think like a mirror. It never judge, doesn’t give advice, it just reflects. Try this simple exercise: repeat back in your own words what the other person is saying and feeling.

Balance is Better!

Just like cars, you need regular tune-ups and oil changes. You need time to rejuvenate YOU! Relax, unstring your bow, treat yourself to a little tender loving care. Eat good foods, exercise, practise your hobbies, Do what you love, be happy 😉😍

— have a wonderful new journey ahead —

Dhiti I. Prabawa